How Can I Be Confident

                                           

                                                         "BE CONFIDENT"

 

         A Crucial Factor which will very effectively help us to shed complex and gain confidence is proper understanding of human psychology. Most of us are under the impression that other people are keenly watching us, observing our acts with great interest. They compare and analyze our activities in order to find fault or pass judgement on us. To understand the validity of this incorrect assumption just ask yourself as to how much, how far and how long are you interested in others and in their activities ? You will admit your interest in others in exception rather than a rule. Your own problems are occupying your mind and engaging your attention.

    In  order to draw your attention, things have to be either abnormal or directly connected with your interests. Something has to catch your eyes, make an impact on your other sense organs. Particularly to attract your attention. Could you recall now whom all you met since you got up this morning? You will not remember the individual unless he has been a friend of yours or a very beautiful young girl with plenty of curves and verve. Next, can you recall the dress the people were wearing, in the cases where you are able to remember whom you met? Further still, can recollect what they did or said? You will find you hardly remember anything. You hardly notices anything you were not bothered.

     What is true of you is true of others. Others are not at all bothered about you. They are immersed in their own problems. Do you think that others are worried about your looks, about your height, weight or size, about your clothes, hair style, or manner of speaking? If so, You are sadly and definitely mistaken. When you make a public speech, You often labour under the impression that people are keenly making note of each syllable you utter, You are worried that they will observe minor grammatical mistakes and incorrect pronunciation. On the other hand, they are primarily interested in what you say rather than how you say it. If what you say is interesting, their attention is centered on it and not on other minor matters.

    When you hear a great orator speaking, you listen to his talk. Your attention is riveted on the ideas he is projecting. You are not conscious of his appearance, looks, dress and such matters. Most of the complexes of an individual are related to the fear of these non-existent judgements, opinions and views of others. The under-confident individual is afraid of the criticism and adverse comments of others. When he realizes that others are least  bothered about him or his looks, talks, or activities, his under-confidence will automatically disappear. Whenever you feel under-confidence, hesitate, shy, just stop and ask yourself 'where is the need?' Remind yourself that others are not bothered about your performance. Even if they notice, they would hardly remember it after a time.

  Therefore, the problem is to satisfy your own mind than those of others. So, why take others seriously ! Why worry about something that really does not exist ? Do you have any doubts ? Are you willing to take a challenge ? All right. You start right now and go ahead doing what what you feel is difficult for you to do. Let us see how many people come back feel is difficult for you to do. Let us see how many people come back feel is difficult for you to do. Let us see how many people come back and corner you with their criticism and comments.

    Most important thing is that others won't be interested in you, unless you take interest in them first. You can attract attention which matters, you can arouse interest which will count only by yourself taking interest in their own matters first. When your approach is leadership-oriented, you are already starting with your right foot forward. By taking genuine and sincere interest in others you have already impressed them favorably.

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